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How Our First and Only Fertility Appointment Went…

How our first and only fertility appointment went...

It’s taken me a little while to find the right words for this post because honestly I really wasn’t sure how to put it into words, but as I mentioned in my previous post our first appointment with the fertility clinic was Monday 7th August at 9.30 am, and I can wholeheartedly say it was an absolute disaster. I’ll admit that that Monday morning I actually felt a little excited and I finally felt like things were heading in the right direction for us, unfortunately I was very wrong.

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We Start Our Fertility Clinic Appointments In One Week…

we start our fertility clinic appointments in one week...

If you read the title and are a little shocked trust me you aren't the only one. When we went to the doctors for a referral at the end of May and had all our tests done, we were told that there was a four month wait for an appointment with our local fertility clinic. I said this was completely fine as we had the wedding, the move, and our honeymoon coming up so maybe it'd be nice to do those things without adding the stress and worry of fertility appointments too.

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“You’re Just Too Ashamed To Admit You Don’t Want Kids”

We start our fertility clinic appointments in one week..

Now that I’m back in the swing of things I think it’s time to continue with my “Things Not To Say” Series, and where better to pick up from than the one sentence that makes me want to scream until there’s no air left in my lungs. “You’re Just Too Ashamed To Admit You Don’t Want Kids” Continue reading ““You’re Just Too Ashamed To Admit You Don’t Want Kids””

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From EllanPaige to MeetTheWicks…

From Ellan Paige to Meet The Wicks

So you may have noticed that my name on here has gone from EllanPaige to MeetTheWicks. This change is because Mitch and I sat have been talking and we decided that along with my blog, the best way to get my message out there really is YouTube. Lots of people have said this to me over the last few months and if I’m honest I’ve been too scared and lacked self confidence.

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Dare To Dream by Izzy Judd, And A Little Giveaway

Dare To Dream by Izzy Judd

On Thursday 29th June 2017, a book I had been waiting for what felt like forever was finally released, Dare To Dream by Izzy Judd. For those of you that don’t know who Izzy is, she is a former member of the electronic string quartet group Escala, wife of McFly drummer Harry Judd, and mother to 18 month old Lola. Some of you may be wondering why I was waiting so eagerly for this book, while others may already know Izzy’s story or remember my previous post last year thanking her for everything she’s done. Like so many of us Izzy really struggled with fertility. She has PCOS, sadly had a miscarriage, and has been through IVF, but instead of keeping quiet she’s decided to use her voice and public status to speak up about fertility issues and start the conversation.

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A Chemical Pregnancy

A Chemical Pregnancy

I told myself last night that I wouldn’t write this post, yet here I am. I’ve realised as the day has gone on that I need to write this, not only for me but because when I started this blog I promised I’d be honest about documenting my journey and if I don’t write it then I’m not being completely honest with anyone.

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Infertility and My Mental Health

Infertility and my mental health

It’s no secret that I’ve battled with depression and anxiety since the age of about 13 years old. The depression would come and go whenever it saw fit and eventually left me alone in 2015. My anxiety however has remained a constant for the last ten years. Most days are pretty manageable but others are crippling where even getting out the door becomes the hardest thing in the world. I can’t go to new places alone, I’m yet to join everyone from work on a night out, and I would rather the ground opened up and swallowed me instead of having to meet someone new but that’s just who I am now.  Recently though the depression has made it’s way back in, but this time things are different and I know exactly what’s caused it… our good ‘friend’ infertility.

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Listen Up!

National infertility awareness week

This week (23rd – 29th April) is National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) in the US which was founded by Resolve. Although I live in the UK it is clearly something I am passionate about so I’m taking part too! Their theme this year is “Listen Up!” encouraging people to listen up and take notice of the issues surrounding infertility and family building. As someone who has been very vocal about their infertility struggles it makes sense for me to join in and talk about the importance of speaking up and how we need to be heard.

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“I Know How It Feels, It Took Us Six Months To Conceive”

I know how it feels it took us six months to conceive

Please don’t get me wrong, I know that the following sentence is meant with all the love, goodwill, and sympathy in the world, and I know that people are just trying to relate and help you feel less alone. However, “I know how it feels, it took us *insert months here* to conceive” is one of those sentences that makes me want to get up and scream “IT’S NOT THE SAME” very loudly in your face. I know you’re just trying to relate to what’s going on in my life, and I know it’s because you haven’t been through it that you’re desperately searching for the right words to say, but just please don’t say anything.

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“You never know…”

you never know

Having received an amazing response from my “Why Don’t You Just Adopt?” post, I’ve decided to write in more detail about the things listed in my “What Not To Say To A Woman Suffering With Infertility” post. Initially I only skimmed over them briefly and somewhat sarcastically, mostly because I think some of them were still raw and painful. I’ve since realised though that they all need proper acknowledgement. While these may be the first sentences that come to peoples minds as a way of support, the reality is that they hurt and they aren’t okay to say. My aim here is to educate people who have never experienced infertility and help them understand what is and isn’t okay to say, but I also want those struggling with infertility to feel less alone. I want them to be able to read this and see that there are people out there who are told the same things they are, and that they aren’t overreacting when they get upset over something that’s been said.

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