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We Start Our Fertility Clinic Appointments In One Week…

we start our fertility clinic appointments in one week...

If you read the title and are a little shocked trust me you aren't the only one. When we went to the doctors for a referral at the end of May and had all our tests done, we were told that there was a four month wait for an appointment with our local fertility clinic. I said this was completely fine as we had the wedding, the move, and our honeymoon coming up so maybe it'd be nice to do those things without adding the stress and worry of fertility appointments too.

So imagine my surprise when I come home from work at the beginning of July and find a letter from the fertility clinic sitting on my doormat that said our first appointment would be 22nd August at 8.15. There I'd been saying to myself that there'd be no point even worrying about it because we wouldn't have an appointment until October at the earliest, yet in reality our first appointment was four weeks away.

Despite having a letter in my hands that stated that exactly when our appointment was happening, none of it real. If I'm being completely honest, as soon as I filled in the form that came with the letter I just put it on the shelf in the kitchen and tried to put it to the back of my mind… then last Wednesday happened.

There I was sitting at my desk at work when my mobile rang. Now usually I'm not one to take personal calls while at work but when I see an unknown number flash up on the screen I always think the worst and immediately assume that someone I love is in the hospital (trust me I know how stupid that is!) Given my weird irrational fear you can only imagine the panic that ran through me when the woman on the other end of the phone went "Hello is that Mrs Wicks? I'm calling from hospital." Before I could panic too much she very quickly explained that she was calling from the fertility clinic and that there had been some cancellations if I wanted an earlier appointment. I didn't even have the time to process what she'd said before she spoke again "I have 9.30 on the 7th August if that's any good for you?" I was in that much shock that all I managed to get out of my mouth was "…uh-huh" –  Nice one Ellan, not like this was an important decision or anything! The receptionist finished the call by telling me she'd send me another confirmation letter and that they looked forward to seeing me on the 7th. I just sat there open mouthed for a while and text Mitch letting him know our appointment had moved and whether he'd be able to get the time out of work, I hadn't even considered this when I agreed to the appointment change.

It's now been five days since our appointment was moved, and with each day it suddenly hits me what's happening. Before I'd had another four weeks to prepare myself for our appointment and what may happen, but now I only have a week. Please don't get me wrong I am so SO happy that things are moving in the right direction finally but I'm also someone who likes to plan and be prepared for every eventuality, and right now I feel a little out of my depth.  I think the scariest thing is that the one thing I've always wanted may now potentially happen. I know that we could still have an incredibly long journey ahead of us and that this may not work for us, but if it does we could have everything we've ever wanted.

I think it goes without saying but I'll be updating you all with every appointment and what the plan is for us, but right now I have no clue what to even expect from our first appointment and honestly… I'm a little scared.

 

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10 thoughts on “We Start Our Fertility Clinic Appointments In One Week…”

  1. Good luck! Our first appointment at the fertility clinic involved meeting with the doctor and talking about all the prior tests my OBGYN had done, her reviewing the charts I’d been using to track my cycles, and discussing treatment options. She was fantastic, I felt like we had all the time in the world to discuss our concerns and our options, and it was great. Then we met with a nurse practitioner to see what further tests needed to be done and set up a timeline. At our clinic, each patient was assigned to a nurse practitioner who we could call with questions any time. There was also a patient portal where I could log in to see my test results a few hours after the blood work and/or ultrasound was completed. It ended up being such a wonderful experience compared to my “oh sweetie, just relax” OBGYN.

    I hope things go well for you! Sending good thoughts your way across the ocean.

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    1. Thank you Kate that’s made me feel so much better! I think I’ve been so worried about not knowing what’s going to happen that I’ve kind of been too scared to ask. I know the first appointment will probably be a lot of questions from our side and theirs but I just have to remember it’ll hopefully all be worth it one day xx

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      1. I’m glad that helped! Emlyn and I had an appointment scheduled for a second clinic the following week, as we wanted to see what both places were like before making a commitment. After we got home, though, Emlyn said that he couldn’t imagine how the other place could possibly be better, and I agreed, so we canceled the other appointment.

        (We also had a similar experience with scheduling. At first, the clinic we ended up with didn’t have any openings until the end of October, but then I got a call that they could fit us in sometime in mid-September, just a few weeks after I’d initially called. I imagine good clinics get their clients pregnant, and then spaces open up!)

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  2. Don’t be scared! I know the first appointment seems overwhelming but it’ll be ok. The doctor will probably have a chat with you about your medical and fertility history. The most awkward bit is when they ask how often you have sex, haha! They will probably offer to take blood samples from you to test your hormones and AMH level. You may be given an ultrasound to look at your uterus and see how many resting antral follicles you have. A good idea is to take lots of notes. What treatment does the doctor suggest for you? Also are there any supplements they recommend? What sort of odds can they give you? It will take several weeks for the test results to come back and you’ll probably get another appointment to discuss the results then. Hubby might be asked to do a sperm test in the meantime. It is all a bit overwhelming but it’s also good to know what you are dealing with and get some advice on your chances. Best of luck!!

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    1. Hi Daisy, thank you for this. Unfortunately things didn’t go well at all and I’ve spent the last 48 hours trying to deal with that. I’m sure I’ll explain everything on here in the next few days, it’s just working out how to put it into words but once I do I really hope it helps someone. Sending positive vibes and so much love right back to you πŸ’›πŸ’›

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  3. I understand the fear of the phone ringing. I do the same thing! Love this post, good luck! I will be thinking of you as I have been struggling with fertility and know how hard it can be. Actually just started a blog myself to share my experiences πŸ™‚

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