infertility

Why Don’t You Just Adopt?

why dont you just adopt

If there’s one thing I’ve heard endlessly over the last few years it’s “It’s no big deal you can’t have a child of your own, why don’t you just adopt?” I usually smile politely and reply with “yeah, maybe” and change the subject. Recently though, when someone said this to me I found myself filled with a new found confidence, and although I had tears in my eyes I found myself saying “well you have your own children, why didn’t you adopt?!”  Honestly nothing and I mean nothing could’ve prepared me for her response. “Well I can have children, you can’t” needless to say I followed this with a hearty “fuck you” and walked away.

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To The Women Who Have Received An Infertility Diagnosis

to the women who have received an infertility diagnosis

To the women (and men) who have received an infertility diagnosis,

I am so sorry. Honestly and wholeheartedly, I truly, truly am sorry. I can still hear every word of my diagnosis echoing in my mind, I can still feel the agonising crushing pain in my chest when I think back to it. Of course it’s never just one talk. It’s numerous phone calls and more appointments for tests. Each one more heartbreaking than the last but please believe me when I tell you that you’re allowed to take time for yourself and grieve. This is a loss and it shall be mourned as one too, you are more than entitled to feel angry, upset, and lost. Do not let anyone ever try to tell you otherwise.

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Mother’s Day

Mothers Day

It’s currently 16:40 on Sunday 26th March 2017, and I will be completely honest when I say I haven’t left my bed yet today. I don’t think I can. It’s Mother’s Day today over here in the UK and yet again it’s a weird one for me. It’s the third Mother’s Day since being diagnosed with PCOS, it’s the first Mother’s Day since trying for a baby and then being a given an official infertility diagnosis, and the first Mother’s Day not seeing my mum (luckily for me my mum alive and well, I’ve just moved away from home. I’ll probably Facetime her later but it’s not the same)

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NHS Funded IVF Rejection

nhs funded ivf rejection

I’m going to start by saying – I know how lucky I am to live in a country with free healthcare and the opportunity to have fertility treatments like IVF for free. However, that’s not to say the NHS is not without it’s rules and guidelines, and believe me are they strict.

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Why I Choose To Talk About My Infertility

why i choose to talk about my infertility

Over the last few months I have been more vocal regarding my infertility than I have been over the last two and a half years, and honestly there’s only one reason as to why – I no longer feel ashamed… Okay that’s a lie I still feel ashamed, I just feel less ashamed. When I really think about it though, I find myself asking ‘why should I feel ashamed?’ and the simple answer is – I shouldn’t. For the last two and a half years I have well and truly beaten myself up over my diagnosis. I’ve asked whether it was my fault or anything I could’ve prevented. I’ve hated my body for ‘failing’ me. I’ve become scared of making it worse. I’ve found myself avoiding questions regarding my body and fertility. Mostly though I’ve felt ashamed because my body can’t do the sole thing we’re put on the planet to do. Reproduce.

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